A Message From The Founder
I started Dads2B when I found myself in a truly impossible situation with little if any options for support. I was just like many of you great men out there. In my mid thirties I found what I thought was my forever partner. In the beginning she was truly amazing and everything in my life finally made sense. Our relationship was so great that I felt comfortable moving quickly with my new love. Less than a year into our relationship we found out that we were expecting a baby girl and we were delighted.
I did what any good man would do, I started setting up our life together. I sold off my investment real estate so that we could buy a house and I gave my blood sweat and tears remodeling that house into our family’s first home.
Soon after our daughter was born, my fiancé had lost most of her interest in me, despite all efforts. I tried flowers, notes, date nights, massages, all efforts were met with minimal excitement. It was clear that I was no longer a priority in my fiancés life.
For five years I did everything I could to keep my family happy at my expense. I spent almost nothing on my own clothes or personal hobbies, I denied myself many things that I wanted in favor of family investment. I even was a stay at home dad for 5 years so my fiancé could build her business while our gifted daughter was receiving the best possible care.
Fast forward to 2024 and my fiancé and I find out that we are expecting our second child. Upon learning this, I was surprised and excited to be completing our family, however, My fiancé did not share the same joy. Upon learning of our pregnancy, she threatened to have an abortion. There was absolutely zero reason for this. She and I are both healthy people, we had talked about having two children during our courtship, we were financially stable, and our daughter was being raised in a loving home. For almost four months my fiancé would waiver back and forth on keeping the baby. In Florida the state law is that abortions are not allowed past 6 weeks. As Florida residents, I though we were all “safe” past the six week mark of pregnancy. Not true. After almost four months of living hell I was notified by my fiancé that despite all my efforts, she would be traveling out of state to have a late term abortion and turned what should have been our son and my daughters brother into a piece of medical waste. My extended family and I tried my best to save that baby boy at all costs and there was nothing we could do. For absolutely no reason, my unborn son lost his life.
My fiancé returned home from her abortion and that was the end of us. My ex ordered me out of the family home and exercised her rights as an unmarried mother in the state of Florida so I went from spending all day every day with my daughter to 50 percent custody and that was further reduced by my ex placing my daughter in a daycare resulting in even more time lost with my daughter. My ex took absolutely everything from me, everything.
I now had to start my life over again and this time with a daughter to take care of living in an expensive city with zero employment, home, or credit. I was also reeling from the loss of my son and time lost with my daughter.
I searched many places for help and most of what I found was clips of men feeling bad for suggesting abortions to their wives in the past. This was not the help I was looking for. I wanted to specifically connect and heal with other people who had actually experienced the living hell that I had been through. It turns out, thankfully, it’s a very small group of men that experience this type of trauma. That’s when and why I created Dads2B.
